I would like to express my feelings of regret as soon as I receive the news of the obituary.
Sending a gift incense stick with a letter of comfort and encouragement to the bereaved family will convey your condolences even deeper.

<Points when giving incense sticks for gifts>

When giving a gift, consider the depth of your relationship and involvement . As a matter of course, there is a balance with the budget, so excessive gifts may put an extra burden on the other party.
Gifts related to Buddhist affairs often deeply resonate with us, so we need to be more careful. Please choose a fragrant incense stick.



<Packaging of incense sticks for gifts>

Non-congratulatory packaging is different from celebration packaging.
There are two types of packaging: packaging that opens from the right and packaging that opens from the left when opening. Packaging that opens from the right is used for ceremonies, and packaging that opens from the left is used for condolences. The incense sticks for gifts are wrapped in wrapping and wrapped with hanging paper.



<Regarding table writing>

Put the name of the sender and the name of the sender on the hanging paper.
(Example) "○○ in front of the Buddha"
The table will change depending on the date of delivery and the date of the death of the deceased.

■ General table writing
・ "In front of the Spirit" ... Until the 49th day after his death.
・ "In front of the Buddhist altar" ... After the 49th day after his death.
・ "Accompaniment" ... Can be used regardless of the day of death.
・ "New Bon Festival" ... Can be used during the Bon Festival when the New Bon Festival is greeted.
・ "Ancestral", "Ancestral souvenir" ... Can be used for weddings and ceremonies.

■ When it is made a joint name
When writing with joint names, it is better to consider a few people in a balanced manner.
If the number of people exceeds that, write "All the Planning Department", "Volunteers of the club", etc. Then, prepare a separate sheet, write each name on it, and enclose it. Also, for the order of joint names, write the superior from the right.

■ Incense sticks for weddings and ceremonies
It has been a long-standing practice to offer incense sticks to your ancestors when you get married. Incense sticks are a gift that conveys your heart even when you make a payment or go home.
The wedding is a new start for the two young people. It has been a long-standing custom to send incense sticks to thank the family and ancestors of the bride's wife for having this wonderful day. I would like to express my gratitude for welcoming this day and the joy of a new departure according to old customs.
It seems that such relaxation of mind is very important in modern life.

■ About writing incense sticks for ceremonies
Depending on the region, the following table is an example.
"Ancestral"
"Ancestral souvenirs"




<Points to write condolences>

・ It is common to omit the preamble such as the greeting of the time and enter the text.
As a conclusion, we will use "gassho", "respect", etc. to conclude carefully.

・ Avoid words that are associated with repetition, such as "overlapping," "frequently," "again," and "following."
Details below ...
・ Generally, the day from the day of death to the 49th day is "in front of the Holy Spirit", and after that, it is "in front of the Buddha" .

・ Honorific title of the deceased Gift of condolences The address for sending incense sticks and condolences should be addressed to the mourner, and if you do not know who the mourner is, the name will be "the late XX bereaved family".
Please note that it is not sent to the deceased.

The deceased who uses the honorific title is represented by the relationship seen by the mourner.
(If you send it as a seasonal greeting such as Obon or Higan, please express it in relation to the deceased from the perspective of the recipient.)
□ Father: Father, Father, Father
□ Mother: Mother church, mother, mother
□ Grandfather: Grandfather □ Grandmother: Grandmother □ Husband: Husband, husband □ Wife: Reishitsu, Reikei
□ Son: Son (sama), Order (sama)
□ Daughter: Breathing woman (sama), daughter (sama)
□ Brother or sister: Older sister or name (Mr. XX) Brother or name (Mr. XX)
□ Younger brother and sister: Sister or name (○○) Brother or name (○○)


<Emergency-Example sentences of condolences that can be used immediately after death>

■ Example sentences without subject ・ We would like to express our deepest condolences for the news of the death.
・ We are deeply grateful for the kindness of our lives, and we would like to express our deepest sympathies and condolences for the deceased's achievements.
・ We would like to express our deepest condolences to the obituary and pray from the bottom of our hearts for a peaceful sleep.
・ I am saddened by sudden sad news.
We would like to take a look at the feelings of the families left behind and fly for comfort, but we pray for the souls from far away.

■ Example sentence with different address ・ We would like to express our deepest sympathies for the death of Mr. ○○○.
・ We mourn the death of Mr. ○○○ and pray for his soul.
・ We would like to express our deepest condolences to Mr. ○○○ for his sadness.

■ Company burial ・ Example sentences of company officials ・ We would like to express our deepest condolences to all employees for the obituary of Mr. ○○○.
We would like to express our deepest condolences to all the bereaved families and employees.

・ We would like to express our deepest condolences to Mr. ○○○ for his obituary.
We pray for the souls from the bottom of our hearts with the achievements, deep gratitude and respect of our lives.

・ We would like to express our deepest condolences to all the employees in memory of the achievements of Mr. ○○○ during his lifetime.
We would like to express our deepest condolences to the bereaved families.

■ General condolence example sentence ・ Thank you very much for your pity. We would like to express our deepest condolences.
・ It's a pity that I didn't expect this time. I have no words of consolation, but please do not help me.


■ Example sentences of regret that died of illness
* It is NG to ask about the details of the illness and the reason for the death.
・ It's a pity that it's not worth the care. I would like to condolences from the bottom of my heart. Please do not let me down.

・ The other day, when I visited him, he seemed to be doing well, so I believed in his recovery, but I'm sorry.

・ I am sorry for the unexpected. I heard that you were hospitalized, but I believed that you would be discharged soon, and I am very sorry for your sympathy. I would like to condolences from the bottom of my heart.


■ Example sentences of regret when suddenly died in an accident
* Give top priority to the feelings of the bereaved family who are in shock.
・ It's a sudden announcement, and I still can't believe it. I have no words how to comfort you. I would like to condolences from the bottom of my heart.

・ It's so unexpected that I'm full of feelings. I know it's hard, but please have a good feeling.


■ Example of condolences for the death of a child * Avoid attending with children. Sometimes you may want your classmates to attend the final farewell, such as when your child's classmate dies. It is only necessary to understand the intentions of the bereaved family, but if this is not possible, let's talk with the parents of the classmates.

・ Thank you very much for your kindness. I think the sadness of my parents is immeasurable. We would like to express our deepest condolences.

・ I am very sorry for this misfortune. I think it's unfortunate. I think it's a weakness, but please be careful. We would like to express our deepest condolences.


■ Example sentences of regret that an elderly person died
* It is NG for attendees to say, "I have completed my life," "I was in a big mess," and "There is no shortage in the year."
・ Thank you for your pity. It is a pity that I would like Mr. ○○ to continue to give guidance as a senior in life, living a long life. We would like to express our deepest condolences.

・ I am surprised to hear the unexpected news. I had just seen how he was doing the other day, so I thought he would live longer. I'm sorry. Please do not let me down.


■ Example sentences of regret that the spouse died

* The impact of losing an important partner is immeasurable. Give some words of encouragement while giving consideration to the feelings of those who are left behind.
・ Thank you very much for your kindness. I think it was really hard to say goodbye to Mr. ○○. However, please have a strong heart for your children. We would like to express our deepest condolences.
・ Thank you for your sudden misfortune and grief. When I think of my wife, I can't find any words to comfort her. Please take good care of yourself and have a strong heart.


<Words to avoid with condolences>

● Abusive words It is said that you should not say abusive words at nights, funerals, and farewell ceremonies.
Avoid using the following words that are associated with unlucky or ominous things.

● Repeated words (to make you imagine that death and unhappiness will occur again) "Repeat" "Repeat" "Kureguremo" "Frequently" "Heavy" "Repeat" "Again" "Finally" "More and more" "Return" "One after another"

● Unlucky, ominous words "cut", "leave", "outrageous", "not floating", "nine", "four" (reminiscent of pain, death, etc.)

● Direct expressions Direct words such as "death / death / death", "sudden death", "accidental death", and "alive" are too raw, so paraphrase them as follows.
・ "Dead" "Dead" → "Breathing taken" "Passed away"
・ "I heard that you died" → "I heard that you died" ・ "I was suddenly killed" → "Suddenly"
・ "While alive" → "Before you are" "When you are fine"

● Words that should not be used depending on the religion The view of life and death differs depending on the religion. Remember the words of condolence that you should avoid.

● The word “Meifu” that should not be used except for Buddhism is a Buddhist funeral word, so “I pray for Meifu” is not used for anything other than Buddhism. Even in Buddhism, Jodo Shinshu does not use this word.
"Buddhahood" and "monument" are also Buddhist terms.

● Condolences in Christianity are as follows.
"I pray from the bottom of my heart that you can have a good night's sleep."

● Condolences in Shinto are stated as follows.
"I pray for the peace of the Spirit."



■ Example sentences of memorial service / memorial service

・ We are deeply grateful for the kindness of our lives, and we would like to express our deepest sympathies and condolences for the deceased's achievements.

・ ○ We pray for the deceased's life and pray for the souls of the deceased at the time of the memorial service.

・ We are renewing our sadness by coming into contact with the memorial service of the deceased. We appreciate your family's feelings. I cannot attend the memorial service, but I would like to send you a heartfelt incense stick to remember the deceased. We would appreciate it if you could offer it to the Buddhist altar.

・ In contact with the deceased's deceased's memorial service, we will join hands from a distance while remembering the deceased's remnants. We thank you for your kindness and pray for the souls of the deceased.

・ I am surprised to hear that Mr. ○○○ has passed away and that he has been forty-nine days old. I am deeply sorry for not visiting you. We understand that you have lost your strength, but please be careful about your body. We sincerely pray for the souls of the deceased.



■ Example sentences for the year-end and New Year holidays Example sentences for the return of postcards during mourning

・ We are sorry for your polite greetings. Since I am in mourning, I will refrain from congratulating you at the beginning of the year. We would like to express our deepest sympathy for the passing of Mr. ○○○. Although it is only my heart, I would appreciate it if you could offer the enclosed incense sticks in front of the Buddhist altar. I pray from the bottom of my heart that you will love yourself as much as you can from the cold weather.

・ I am very surprised to hear that you are sorry for the New Year's greetings today. I'm sorry I didn't know anything about the death of Mr. ○○○ and I didn't express my condolences. We pray for your souls and pray for your souls, and we will send you heartfelt incense sticks. We would appreciate it if you could offer it to the Buddhist altar. We would like to express our deepest sympathies to our families, but we pray from the bottom of our hearts that we will have a peaceful new year.

・ I was surprised to hear that you are in mourning for Mr. ○○○. For the past few years, I haven't had the opportunity to warm up old relationships only by exchanging New Year's greetings, but I can't believe I've come across such sad news. We appreciate your disappointment with your family. I pray that you will take good care of yourself and be reassuring. It is a heartfelt incense stick, but please offer it in front of the Buddhist altar. I would like to express my condolences in the book.



■ Example sentences of Obon and Higan

・ While remembering the image of the deceased, we will join hands from a distance. We thank you for your kindness and pray for the souls of the deceased.

・ I pray for the deceased's peaceful sleep while remembering the appearance of the day.

・ I couldn't come to visit you this time, and I would like to send you a heartfelt incense stick to remember the deceased. We would appreciate it if you could offer it to the Buddhist altar.

・ Although it is only my heart, I will send you incense sticks. We would appreciate it if you could offer it to the Buddhist altar.



■ Example sentence of new bon visit

・ We would like to express our deepest sympathies and prayers for the souls of Mr. ○○○ as we welcome the new bon. This time, I will not be able to visit you, and I will join you from afar. I am sorry but I will send you incense sticks. We would appreciate it if you could offer it to the Buddhist altar.

・ In welcoming the new tray, I sent incense sticks to my heart. We pray for the souls of our lives.

・ It's been a long time, and I would like to express my deepest sympathies for welcoming Mr. ○○○'s new tray. Since we are in a remote area, we will send you incense sticks. We pray for the health of all the family members.

For offerings, "gift incense sticks". As an offering, we recommend the <gifted scent> of the paulownia box, which conveys the feelings of mourning and condolences. Delivering incense sticks at funerals and ceremonies is a tradition that has been passed down in Japan's long history.
As the name suggests, the original meaning of incense sticks is to give incense (incense sticks) instead of wrapping cash.
We have a large number of incense sticks that are ideal for offerings, and we also accept packaging and writing on Noshi. When you give an offering, please order it. Why don't you attach a "condolence greeting card" with your heart to the incense stick for gifts?



■ Condolences greeting card for individuals

If you send an incense stick for gifts with a letter of comfort and encouragement to the bereaved family, you will be able to convey your condolences even deeper.

・ We would like to express our deepest condolences for the news of the death.

・ We would like to express our deepest condolences to the obituary and pray for a peaceful sleep. I am sorry but I will send you incense sticks. I hope you can offer it.

・ We are deeply grateful for the kindness of our lives, and we would like to express our deepest sympathies and condolences for the deceased's achievements.

・ We would like to express our deepest condolences for the obituary. We pray for the souls from the bottom of our hearts with the achievements, deep gratitude and respect of our lives.

・ We are renewing our sadness by coming into contact with the deceased's memorial service. We appreciate your family's feelings. I cannot attend the memorial service, but I would like to send you a heartfelt incense stick to remember the deceased. It's just my heart, but I would appreciate it if you could offer the enclosed incense sticks.



■ When the news of obituary arrives to corporations / organizations

Even customers and business partners who are indebted to us on a daily basis are increasingly aware of their misfortunes for the first time in mourning postcards. At such times, I would like to give a gift incense stick and express my condolences.
Introducing the text of the greeting card that can be used for "mourning visits" in business.

・ We would like to express our deepest condolences to all employees for the obituary. We would like to express our deepest condolences to all the bereaved families and employees.

・ We would like to express our deepest condolences for the obituary. We pray for the souls from the bottom of our hearts with the achievements, deep gratitude and respect of our lives.

・ We would like to express our deepest condolences to all the employees for their achievements during their lifetime. We would like to express our deepest condolences to the bereaved families.